A wedding is something that many of us look forward to since we were just little girls and boys. It’s a time to celebrate the love of our life with our friends and family and really appreciate all of the people we love. It’s the beginning of a new chapter and we always want it to be the perfect day.
Many brides have now chosen or been forced to postpone their wedding day in order to follow shelter-in-place guidelines and flatten the curve of the Covid-19 Pandemic. If you or someone you know has had to take on this burden here are a few things you can do in the mean time to brighten up a sad and necessary time.
1. Host a Zoom Happy Hour for the Bride with her bridesmaids.
Are you the maid of honor? Or another esteemed member of the bridal party? Organize a Zoom happy hour or crafting hour and get everyone together virtually. Seeing the faces of those we love can really cheer us up! Take some time to pick the best day and time that works for everyone then invite the bride! She will appreciate you taking the time to think of her and that you’ve taken on some of the constant re-planning and re-scheduling she has had to do for her wedding day plans. Don’t forget about the groom! Reach out to the groomsmen to see if they can coordinate a Zoom session for the boys too.
2. Send a Care Package.
Gather up a few things to pamper the bride to be! Focus on items that can make being cooped up at home feel luxurious. Perhaps a bath bomb, a face mask, some candles, and her favorite hair product. Many salons are fulfilling online orders or doing drop offs for retail items. You can support a struggling small business and give your bestie a thoughtful gift at the same time! (If Oribe is her favorite, enter code mockingbird_heights at Oribe.com to help us during these times!) You can also put together couple centric gifts for the bride and groom, such as their favorite bottle of whiskey, a “reflexology for beginners” book, or a gift card to their favorite restaurant.
3. Make Their Wedding Dinner and Drop it off on the Doorstep.
Are you a whiz in the kitchen? Call your friend and offer up your skills for dinner later that week! Pick up the items from their wedding day menu and cook it up with love. Then wrap it up nicely and drop it off on their doorstep. Your wonderful meal will be a loving reminder of the great things to come and that they haven’t made their tough decision for no reason.
4. Create a slideshow of your favorite pictures of the couple, add their song to it.
You can use photos from social media, from your own stash, and from their engagement session! This can be done easily with iMovie, or on websites like Animoto, or even apps like KineMaster and Adobe Premiere Rush. Upload their song or another cheerful track and viola! A fun collage for all to see. Or if they are the private type, something you can easily send in an email to them to enjoy with each other.
5. Gift them a Porch Portrait, with their wedding photographer if possible.
This is a wonderful trend that has been popped up for those who have had to miss important events from birthdays to graduations. Even families who just want a snapshot of their life in these unprecedented moments have hired a photographer to snap portraits of themselves on their front porch or doorstep. It’s a very unique and meaningful and socially distant way to capture history in the making. This could be an extra special touch for the bride and groom who have put things on hold. A porch portrait is also another fabulous way to support their wedding photographer, or another local photographer who has likely had many jobs cancelled or postponed.
It’s times like these that friends and family are the most important. Even if we can’t be there for each other in person a few meaningful gestures will go a long way.
Are you part of a wedding that’s been canceled or postponed? How are you handling it? Let us know in the comments!
In unprecedented times many of us have sacrificed important events, vacations, celebrations, and more! It can feel confusing, frustrated, and it's hard to just google a question when many people and organizations are dealing with new problems and with few options or resources. Unfortunately for many of 2020's brides and grooms are postponing their long awaited wedding day. While the decision its self may or may not be difficult, the logistics and to-do list most certainly are! Today Tina, from Oh Splendid Day is here to answer some questions about how to go about postponing your wedding.
What is the first thing you say to brides who have had to or are considering postponing their wedding?
I let them know they’re not alone. Let them know that it’s okay to grieve this time and to through the stages of what grieving looks like (denial, shock, anger, bargaining, acceptance, etc). I also let know as their coordinator that I am there to help them in anyway I can.
Who do you recommend they contact first?
Reaching out to your coordinator and having them help you reach out to all of your vendors should be your first plan of attack. Your coordinator will work with you to find an alternate date, understand your options based on contracts you have signed and help you to get a plan in place.
How have you been seeing deposits for venues, etc. being handled?
I have been seeing different vendors and venues handle deposits differently but most importantly the thing I have seen them doing most is being flexible and understanding. I understand it from both a business and consumer side. It’s important to remember that the deposits you have paid are the business’s livelihood and small business run the wedding industry by and large. Also, as I mentioned the vendors are trying to be flexible and understand that this is the client’s hard earned money and the day they have been dreaming of for a long time. By working together and remaining flexible and compassionate on both sides we can get through this and come out stronger.
How should they inform their guests?
At first people were contacting their guests through email, text or their wedding websites. All still good methods. But stationers (like minted, zazzle, etc) have been coming up with cute postponement cards (a few of my faves I have included here) as a way to inform guests of the new info. The ones I picked are silly, since that suits my personality but there are more formal ones available too.
How do you recommend picking the new date?
This question is tricky, because this pandemic is unprecedented and I don’t have a crystal ball it is hard to say when it will be a good time to postpone to. I recommend working with you coordinator to come up with a Plan B and even C to have in your back pocket. These plans will need to be specific to the contracts you have signed with your venue and vendors among other factors that are particular to your life.
Any other tips?
Lastly, I would recommend staying flexible, remembering that this is about the love you and your future spouse have for each other and this too shall pass. If you want to honor your original date there are several ways to do that from ordering take out from your favorite restaurant and opening a bottle of wine on the night of what would’ve been your wedding all the way to having a ceremony and legally getting married on that day and turning your postponed wedding into a vow renewal.
I want to drive home that your coordinator is your biggest asset here. They are on your side.
If you don’t already have a coordinator, Oh Splendid Day is happy to help you in the postponement process. ohsplendidday.com or firstname.lastname@example.org
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